Topic 3: Recent Troubles. This topic works best when you have been chatting with each other quite frequently lately. By sharing some of your own annoyances, you can get a girl to lower her guard and naturally open up to you about her own frustrations. Let’s use a conversation between two guys as an example. One guy said: “I recently took on a project, and the client is impossible to work with. They kept asking for something like ‘colorful black’—I’ve never met such a bizarre client.” Then the other could respond: “Tell me about it. My former boss was just the same. After we finished a proposal, he changed the theme and the team overnight, making us work all night. It’s true what they say: when those at the top open their mouths, those below run their legs off.” At first, the guy is venting, but before long, the girl starts pouring out a long list of complaints. Whether she’s struggling with her studies or work, her emotional needs are strong at such times. Guys who’ve read Brother Yuan’s articles know not to analyze the situation logically, but to unconditionally take her side and complain along with her. Once she calms down, directly suggest a second date: “Work is already this tough, so we shouldn’t let life be hard too. Let’s go out and have some fun this weekend to unwind.” She was already feeling down, but if you fully empathize with her and make plans for her, how could she not want to develop things further with you?
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