Getting to know each other deeply is about figuring out whether two people are truly compatible on an emotional level and if their relationship can move forward. I’ve put together 4 topics for you, with real examples from actual dating conversations to help your relationship grow closer quickly. These are great topics to bring up when you’re taking a walk after your date or during a quiet lull in the chat.
The first topic is first impressions. While you’re strolling or shopping together, you can ask her: “So, what did you think of me when we first met?” She might say something like, “Hmm, I thought you were pretty funny.” The point here isn’t really to get an answer—it’s to spark her curiosity to ask you questions. Bringing up first impressions instantly cranks up a girl’s curiosity, since they care a lot about how others see them. It’s like a master key. Naturally, she’ll be curious and most likely ask: “What was your first impression of me? Were you a bit disappointed?” This stirs up her emotions as much as possible, which is the push-and-pull technique I often talk about.
She’ll probably look confused, and then you can say: “From our gaming chats, I thought you were really tough and figured I’d made a new buddy. But after this date, I realize you’re actually really gentle.” She might laugh and say, “Haha, so you thought I was like one of the guys?” That kind of playful banter makes the conversation feel really relaxed.
Having said that, this line is still pretty risky. Let me show you how Brother Yuan handled it. Remember there was a stray cat earlier, and you played with it for ages? This dodges the question directly but doesn’t avoid the emotion. Even though you’re changing the subject, you’re still highlighting her gentle side. Then she’ll probably say: “Aww, that cat’s so cute! I stop by every day now and it rubs against me—we’re totally best buddies.” Just one sentence can get her talking nonstop.
If you’re lucky and the girl already likes you, she’ll let it slip in her very first answer. I don’t need to tell you how to take it from there.