I have sorted out the underlying logic of dating in detail, covering the four steps of dating and how to avoid being rejected on the first date. This is a complete set of dating ideas and processes. No matter what stage you are at with a girl, you can find a method that suits you and comes easily to you. If handled properly, you can find a partner right away, bid farewell to being single, and stop having awkward conversations and coming across as unemotional.
First of all, for online chatting, I believe everyone has a basic framework, right? It focuses on self-presentation. Simply put, on the premise of being honest, you use words and skills to show your sense of humor and value to attract girls. Many guys revert to their old selves when meeting offline, because offline interactions are about proving yourself—we need to use actions to confirm that the impression we left on girls earlier is genuine. Yet many people fail at this stage, failing to maintain consistency, coming off as bold and talkative online but timid and reserved in person.
But how exactly do you create a perfect date that you will both remember for a lifetime? First comes asking her out. Frankly speaking, you have to get her to agree to meet up first; otherwise, nothing that follows matters. There are five ways to ask a girl out: direct, suggestive, cooperative, tentative, and indirect. I will explain these five methods to guys in ascending order of how likely girls are to accept them.
Ranked fifth is the direct approach. Some may ask: Do you even need to learn how to ask someone out directly? Can’t you just invite her outright? Yes, exactly—it’s a very straightforward invitation. Yet more than 70% of guys can’t do this. When asking out a girl they like, many men become nervous due to high expectations and care too much about her feelings, so they end up speaking like this: “Um, I was wondering… do you have time on Friday night? Uh, maybe… could we have dinner together?” This unnatural demeanor makes you seem unconfident and gives girls the impression that you are weak. Even if most girls agree to your invitation, they will label you as just an ordinary guy. Women like men who are brave and strong-minded. So saying directly to her: “Are you free this noon or evening? I want to have dinner with you, and I’d like to…” is far better than “Shall we… do something?” The former shows the man taking the lead, while the latter gives the girl the choice and surrenders control. A real man learns to be direct—just ask her out if you want to. Moderate honesty may seem skill-less, but it is a skill in itself. Of course, this method is relatively low in terms of intimacy, but it is still a valid approach.